Talking to people feels good
Abundance is everywhere, in everything. So go out there to be a friend, it’s a principle for abundance in your life. We as a species are meant to bond, we are herd animals after all. The connection to humans and the exchange with one another is not only fun and exciting, it is also healthy in many different ways.
But how to approach strangers? How to connect to more people?
Like with so many other things in life, it all starts with our inner view of others, and how we believe, think, and act within us.
Let me give you a little example here:
Let’s say, in your reality strangers are dangerous. With this belief, you will most likely avoid any contact with unknown people. Hence, it will be difficult for you to meet new people at all.
When you now start to reframe this belief and turn it into: “Strangers are simply friends I haven’t met yet.” You will find it easier to talk to complete strangers anywhere. Besides the obvious fun, it can be to meet new people, you also start to grow and build a network of possibilities and connections. Both are important to growing ideas into businesses.
People misunderstand Networking
Networking is something that mankind has been doing since the first steps of our evolution took place. Without human networks, we would not have any of our achievements in technology, society, science or in any other area of life. For so many people I met networking has a foul taste. In simple terms networking just means to meet new people and find friends or possible partners for projects.
Steps you can take to meet more people
1. The Three Foot rule:
Every person within three foot (arms-length) reach is a potential “friend” that you could meet. All it takes is a little action from your side. Interestingly many people are open to just talk and exchange when your approach is coming from the side of being a friend.
Tip 1: Approach people around you.
When you start to interact with people, do something unexpected. Say things to start off a conversation like: “Hey, cool shoes. Where did you get them?” Or, “That’s a beautiful jacket…” – just start with a compliment for whatever you find is standing out in this person.
Tip 2: Start with a friendly, real, and humble compliment.
The next step is to get permission to talk. Ask them if it is cool if you chat a little with them. Then when they agree, be interested in them. After introducing yourself, with a handshake, ask: “What do you do?” or “What is the next big challenge that you are going face?”
Tip 3: Pay attention and show your interest.
When they tell you a little about their story, listen and see if you could be of value to them. Or maybe you know somebody that could be: “… I think I know someone who might be able to help you. Would you be interested?”
Tip 4: If you can offer a solution. Keep your conversation going.
Exchange names and numbers. If you can be of service to them, getting their contact is a natural step. Otherwise just ask if they would like to stay in touch and talk again sometime.
Tip 5: Always exchange contact details.
2. Reality check
Many people are very cautious and will block you off the moment you say something. Just move on there. Remember you are going out to be a friend, not a salesperson that needs to find the next client.
People are busy and in their hectic everyday stress, they might come over as unfriendly, angry or distant. That is ok as well and has nothing to do with you or your attempt to start a conversation.
This is a powerful tool to grow your network, not everybody is a fit for you. It’s not a competition, it’s a cooperation.
3. Second, Events and Conferences
Take part in as many events and conferences you like. Try to attend 2-3 a month for just 1 year and talk to each and every person you can while you are there. Use the same conversational steps like in the first step. The Compliment part can be replaced with: “Nice to meet you here. Why are you attending? What do you hope to take home for yourself today?”
Tip 6: Find a common topic to exchange ideas and show real interest and solution oriented thinking.
Many people attend seminars and conferences to meet other people. If you stay in the friendship zone, you can avoid uncomfortable situations. Plus, you start to emit a certain energy that gives you credibility. What makes many “networking” events almost unbearable is the fact that people are looking for prospects they can “get on board” with their business. Coming from a different angle might just open you the door to much more connections than you could ever imagine. You just have to be willing to take the long road.
Tip 7: Make connections, not prospects.
Some people only want to take in the information they get at these events. They do not want to be bothered or approached. The fact that exchanging business cards will lead to nothing in 85% of the cases. Make sure you have a closer connection and stay on top of your contacts. This means if you are not the one who is calling and following up, you will waste your chance to make a new friend.
Enjoy making friends wherever you go. Growing your personal network and evolving it step by step into a valuable community of people open to your ideas is an investment of time.
Be of service, be kind, and stay open minded. Now chop chop, and go out there to be a friend.
The Abundance Principles